How do you get proof when you want to trust your spouse?

If you believe and trust in your marriage and want it to last, but your spouse behavior appears to be suspect (cheating). You communicate your feelings with your spouse but he continues to converse he is faithful and always will be. Never deny his attraction and love for me. But your gut is telling you that his a$$ is lying. Always working late, always have to work out of town, never answer the cell when he is out, return calls hours later.How do you get proof when you want to trust your spouse?
Well when they start dodging the questions you ask it isn't a good sign,but ask him why he returns your calls hours later.You could unexspectally show up where he is out of town.Get his cell phone and look on the phone numbers that have been dialed or recieved.Use that brain of yours and you will find a way to find out.How do you get proof when you want to trust your spouse?
Pull his cell phone record (ask for an itemized statement and look for repetitive numbers. Do a reverse search on-line and find out where the number is too. This will get you in the general direction. If your gut is telling you something is wrong than most likely he is lying about something (not necessarily cheating). Ask at the last minute to accompany him out of town on his business trip. The closer you get to exposing his secret the more angry he will become. Good luck finding the truth...
thats heridietary nature of women. she always suspect;


my ex done same; and for the truth she never beleived my any words; even i have`t cheated; later i foundout actually she is cheating and she wanted way out and blaming me for all her mistakes. thats make complete women.


so guys tell truth that you slept with someone and she will beleieve in reverse. thats secret of keeping many women.
Honey, I had the same experience years ago!!!!!





We were living downstate in Niles, Michigan, and my husband was working in this factory, and he was always working late, claiming to make more money because we needed it, he worked all the time, never home for me and his daughter.





He was working with the company tramp, and he got to know her real well, well, one day, her dog died, and he came home with flowers and a card that only he signed, and I confronted him about this, because I knew she was making a move on my man!!!!





He denied it, claiming that he was just being a friend, and he would NOT let me sign the card at ALL!!!





I had enough of it, he would come home and say Tammy this, Tammy that, and the worst part is she had a boyfriend on the side, and she was making a move on my man!!!! A married man at that!!!!!!





Well, I had enought of it, and I just left, took my daughter and packed the car and left, and went to Traverse City, Michigan and filed for a legal seperation, got it, and started to live my own life with my daughter, and he could have the company tramp all he wanted!!!!!!





I did all of this while he was sleeping!!!!! Did not even notice me leaving with his daughter!!!!





So after a few months, he realized that he really wanted us in his life and he started to realize how good he had it with me and his daughter around, and this company tramp, was nothing, could not make him happy, so after a long time of me making him beg to come up and live with us, and believe you me, it was a long time, I had to trust him again, and make sure he would be there for BOTH ME AND HIS DAUGHTER, we finally reconcilled, and renewed our vows, and now we are continuing with our marriage.





My advice, leave him, you are doing everything, and you are not making any progress in your marriage. Leave him for a while and have your time and space away from him and let him do some serious thinking about you, him, and your marriage.
I remember reading that private detectives are getting more and more work checking out people who are in relationships... not just going after them for divorce hearings. It was a way to prove that someone was being honest and all that.





There does come a time when you have to make a ';leap of faith'; in a relationship. You can worry yourself to death, wondering if your significant other is cheating on you.... but unless you have proof, there's no reason to get upset. I'd tell you to listen to your gut and if you are convinced that its right, maybe its time to employ the services of a PI.





But......... let me ask you........... are you in a good relationship now? Do you take care of him and his needs? Does he take care of yours? Have you smelled another woman on him? Does he come home and jump in the shower? There are signs that present themselves........ keep your eyes open, but not to the point where you miss what could be a good relationship... you know?
Hire a PI . They are discreet and will find out quickly without your husband knowing they are doing it. You can follow him yourself, but you risk being caught. At that point he would think you don`t trust him. Without trust, there is nothing.


On the other hand, the thing about being paranoid is that sometimes, you are right.
You can not prove a negative. That is what trust is. Believing what you cannot see. However I would say that by the way you describe it I would be suspicious also.It is up to him to earn your trust and if you have told him how you feel and he does nothing to correct it the I would say that he doesn't deserve your trust.


Just an added bonus, Living with someone that you trust but don't love is far better than living with someone that you love but don't trust. trust is the basis of any good marriage.
Usually I say to trust your gut feeling. But marriage is a contract that should be based on trust. Without trust you have nothing. Until you have proof of him breaking that trust I suggest that you believe him. Are you close enough friends where you can tell him about your ill feelings? If so I suggest that you talk to him about it. Maybe he really is what he says he is. That would be nice would it not? (smile)
Ask him why he doesn't answer his cell phone. Ask him if you can go with him on his next out of town. Find out where he is going and show up to surprise him with a romantic night.
well u could always have a friend follow if you dont want to do maybe just cell phone records maybe the credit card bills from whn he was staying out of town.that kind of stuff if you have the money waht bout a private eye if all else fells you have to ask yourself does this person have a history of cheating in the past that you are having these unsure feelings .if all else fails go with your gut!!!
u should give him sometime to be adjustable with this situation because i think he had load of pressure of work n the most is of his boss which want him to do better to get a masterpiece in work ............ or if not u should serve him in bed in different style may be he is distrack because of this .....


of all this u should talk to him in this area his idea will be better i think
follow him and watch his work activities. and even follow him out of town. you will see if he's lieing and or cheating.
Do you trust your spouse? I think you don't. I think he's just busy working to finance your family.
Oh boy, that's a real good feeling to have.





I take it generally the ';old boy'; doesn't work late or work out of town as much as he has been lately.





Cell phones were invented to keep in touch. What, is his not working? Guess it is hay, because he does indeed call you back on his time schedule.





Is there anyway you could go with him on these out of town trips? Niece's husband wanted her to see New York so she made arrangements and off they both went. He was on a job assignment, but wanted her to come along to give her the opportunity to see New York. They both work long hours and he's out of town quite a bit. If they can make arrangements, anyone can. They don't have kids. There babies are there two cats. Don't know if you have kids.





If your husband can think at all, he would/could do the same if possible. By possible, I mean kids. However arrangements could also be made for that too.





As far as working long hours .... call the company he works for sometime during the day and ask what his job schedule is, because you're trying to make arrangements for a trip or whatever so you need to know his schedule. Tell them you misplaced your schedule book. You may get both questions answers at the same time. If they say they couldn't do that because it's private business, don't accept such an excuse. It's not real. You must have his companys phone number. Your his wife and they will give you this info.





Is there any way you could check his cell? Just a shot in the dark. I'm not up with cells that much. Only have one for emergensies, because we live in the north woods and winters are our main concern. Sure you're more with it when it comes to cell's.





You know your husband better then I. At least you thought you did. With these changes in his work schedule and not returning your calls until hours later does put uneasy feelings in your mind and gut.





Think about his past and think about his now. Would his past give you reason to worry? By past I mean before you married him or perhaps early stages of your marrage.





Be your own detective. Don't bother asking him how he feels and does he love you. If you're right you won't get the straight scoop anyways.





Will be celebrating our 40th yr. today. Never had reason to think any thing was going on. Ups and downs, yes, but that's normal for any marriage. With his job he had every chance to be a naught boy. I can see how you would have the gut feelings you do. My gut feeling are usually on the mark. Men seem to think we don't know anything and that's the way they like it. NOT TALKING ABOUT ALL OF YOU GUY'S OUT THEIR, BECAUSE WOMEN CAN DO THE SAME. Just talking about this persons reasons for her uneasy feelings.





What goes around usually comes around. Let him live with his guilt if that's the case. You just might get a phone call from a women who is breaking the rules. Ask questions if you have the chance. She'll give herself away.





Don't like talking about the negative. You're the only one who can determine what's going on.You could hire a dedective, but you can do this on your own.





You have my support what ever you decide to do.





Don't call, don't ask questions. Let him figure it out for himself. He'll start asking you questions about not calling, etc. You're your own person. You can answer or not answer. Be your own investigator and charge him your fees. $200.00 bucks an hour.





Love ya, you'll get through this. You have to in order to have peace of mind.