If you have to put your foot down and tell your spouse what not to do, isn't that a little pointless?

If you have to tell your spouse what is unacceptable as they are doing something unacceptable or have already done, then isn't it a little pointless to stay in that marriage. Communicating is one thing... but knowing right from wrong, this shouldn't be something one spouse needs to tell the other. For example, telling your spouse to be honest about the affair, to not flirt online, to clean up the house, to help with the kids, and so forth.... If you have to tell them to do this, then it means they don't have it in themselves to do it already, and the only reason they are doing it or not doing it... is because you told them to.





Doesn't that defeat the purpose... nobody should have to tell their spouse to not flirt with another girl/guy, nobody should have to tell their spouse that talking on a phone with another girl/guy for 4 hours every night is inappropriate, nobody should have to tell their spouse that doing absolutely nothing to help with chores/kids is irritating, and same goes for the spouses that want the truth about affairs - if they weren't honest with you about it themselves, then why even ask?... that should be something they already know how to do... so what does telling them that really solve? it just goes to show you married someone with no care to actually do any of those things or not do any of those things on their own in the first place. Telling them what to do or not to do, kind of defeats the purpose... don't you think?If you have to put your foot down and tell your spouse what not to do, isn't that a little pointless?
just leaveIf you have to put your foot down and tell your spouse what not to do, isn't that a little pointless?
I think when people say put your foot down what they really mean is have some respect for yourself....no telling someone not to do something never works, infact it usually has the opposite effect