What is the longest you have refused to talk to your spouse?

My wife has refused to talk about our lack of s*x for 12 years of marriage. She was a cold fish on the honeymoon and the 12 years following. When I tell her something is wrong and needs to change, or she needs to tell me why she's feeling this way, she refuses to respond. She leaves the room. One time about a year ago, she screamed at me louder than I have ever heard her scream ';I DO NOT OWE YOU ANYTHING';





Everything else in our life is fine. She says she loves me and says i do not need to change anything. She says she is happy and if i have a problem that is too bad.





So, six months ago i told her i would not touch her or talk to her again until she comes clean with some kind of explanation.





How long do you think she can hold out? Forever? Would she waste away our entire life and marriage because of her stupid inability to communicate?





What is the longest you ever stonewalled your spouse?





What is the longest you have refused to talk to your spouse?
12 hours. That's one night of sleep and a couple hours in the morning.


We've been together 13 years so I really do not know how you can stand it. I feel very bad for you. Physical affection is so crucial to our mental well being. How do you function?


No way can other things in your marriage be just fine.What is the longest you have refused to talk to your spouse?
I've been married 22 years and we didn't keep the marriage alive by not communicating. We made promises to each other to talk about anything and everything that bothers one or the other.





Communication is key to a good marriage. I hope you and your spouse can open the lines back up and work out your differences.





Best of luck to you!
Why in the world are you still married to this woman? Seriously? You post the same questions over and over about how miserable you are and about how you haven't gotten any in 12 years. Why don't you two quit torturing each other and move on so you can finally get some and be happy??? You deserve to be happy and you are miserable! Do something about it dude!
wow. you both are acting immature. 6 months without touching?! DEMAND that she have a real conversation with you. ask her is she really wants to live this way? if she's never going to change, there's no need to stay miserable for the rest of your life. you can find someone that wants to make you happy. you guys really need counseling.





oh and the longest i've gone without talking to him was probably about 10 minutes. he always knows when i'm upset and vice versa.
Well, maybe if you gave her better quality sex and was less demanding that she communicate with you, she might be interested! It is obviously not important to her that you touch her. Also, what you call ';stonewalling'; your spouse is abuse. You sound like a real pip!
you post a billion questions about this. Do us all a favor and leave her already or get someone one the side to fulfil your needs if you have to. Whatever will make you stop complaining. If you're not happy DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
the longest I've gone without speaking to me spouse was like 20 minutes. It doesn't work- communication is ESSENTIAL to a healthy relationship!
1 day!
2 months, then i dovorced him
3-4 days
Maybe a hour... I don't hold grudges, I just need to calm down sometimes.
Dude...ask her for an open marriage....say you have needs....since she won't service them for you.
Hm.... Are you ok communicating with other things .. kids? money? and all other aspects of your relationship?. Are YOU happy?


12 yrs is a looong time to have this on your mind and have nothing change or even talk about it.


I myself can't even go to bed angry, my boyfriend(of 5yrs) and i have to talk about what happened, once we both cool down, go for a walk with the dog or something, come back to each other and deal with the problem, compromise until we both feel better.


Seems like shes a stubborn person, or maybe there something that you don't know about her that has really scarred her and it being so long she feels she can't talk about it or doesn't want to bring it up after shes tried so hard to forget it.


i don't know, all that really can fix this is you guys talking about it. Good luck, i hope everything works out for you two.